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Happy Wednesday, Friends! I hope you had a wonderful weekend! Saturday, I had the privilege of hosting ConfidenceCon in LA, and it was amazing! KJ Rose curated a powerful day of transformation, and I am honored to serve as the host for the 3rd year in a row! Yesterday, I coached a group of women at a beauty corporation, and there was one theme that repeatedly arose: ANGER. Many of the women in this session felt angry about the state of corporate life. We often treat anger like an unwanted guest, something to suppress, ignore, or feel guilty about. But what if anger isn’t a flaw? What if it’s an indicator? Last fall, I was simply ANGRY for about two weeks. My heart had taken a few hits that felt lethal, and I was tired of believing the best about people. But I didn't give myself permission to express the anger, nor did I allow myself to feel it in the moment. Instead, I suppressed the anger in an attempt to dismiss it. Why? Because I felt guilty for feeling angry when there was so much going well in my life. In short, I had work to do! By the time I addressed the anger I was suppressing, my body was aching and stressed from "holding it all together" and "sweeping things under the rug." Unprocessed anger usually points directly to a boundary that has been crossed, a core value that feels compromised, or an unexpressed need. When we sweep it under the rug, it doesn't disappear; it turns into resentment, fatigue, or self-sabotage. When you feel that spike of frustration this week, pause before reacting or burying it. Give yourself permission to get curious about the emotion rather than critical of it. Here's what you can do to address the anger head-on:
Now, in your quiet time, ask the following question: Where in my life am I feeling tension, and what boundary needs to be restored? Remember, honoring your anger doesn't mean letting it run the show. It means letting it teach you where you need to heal, protect, or realign. I'm cheering you forward from victory to victory, Sybil. |